hi my name is Jesse and this is the story of how I got over my social
anxiety when I was younger there are two things that I could not get enough
chocolate cake and world Warcraft
out only stop playing T eat and jack off now this is what I look like at around 17 years old
can you see the sadness in my eyes I hated life
and I try to escape it through video games and a lot
food I almost never smiled hear my mom is trying to push my mouth
some sort of Graham but it's not happening I would walk around life with
this
overwhelming feeling of constant anxiety
kinda like that feeling you get right before roller coasters about to drop
accept that never actually drops but there's this weird pit in your stomach
and you're just waiting for something really really bad to happen
going to the grocery store was a huge ordeal for me because
I we getting society from doing the simplest things like just
talking to the cashier when someone would ask me what time it was I would
freeze up
in my mind go blank even though someone was just simply asking me the damn time
a lot of people experienced this and if you don't then consider yourself
very lucky and i'm talking about. social
anxiety I suffered from it for most of my life
I was constantly in this mental prison and I always wondered how
other people could so freely do things like make friends and talk to strangers
it baffled me everything in my life is going well
except for the fact that I couldn't even enjoy it because of the horrible mess
I'm social anxiety life sucked for absolutely no
logical reason when I was 17 my doctor officially diagnosed me with having
social anxiety disorder
the first thing he did was put me on medication I was on packs a land
at a van I thought I was on my way to being cured when something really weird
happened I took the medication for about a week
and then start to feel numb and weirdly
empty no longer like a person I didn't feel anxious or com
or sad or happy I I just felt no and I knew this wasn't how a person should be
feeling so I got off the medication immediately and realized I needed to
find another solution
now what about to say is just my personal experience and I'm no doctor
but I cured my social anxiety completely
how did I do this well
you know that feeling you get when every single fiber in your body is telling you
not to do something
even though you know you should your hands are sweating your heart starts
beating faster and faster louder and louder
until you can even hear yourself things and the only former believe would be to
leave the situation
immediately so instead of leaving like I always did I used my anxiety attack
trigger
to push myself out of my comfort zone for example
I was at a grocery store remains it. what I've done I would make it a point
to start a conversation with someone that work there
right away eventually I would force myself to strike up conversations with
random strangers
and what happened after I would push myself to do this was simply amazing
I would lead the conversation or interaction feeling completely
decelerated
you the feeling and euphoria I realized that if I just
forced myself to do what I didn't want to do
I ended up feeling amazing regardless if they like me or not night
built on top world might not even make sense at first or seem relevant on the
surface but
it provided me with the mindset that its old K
to talk to people and that my fears a social situations where
complete and other bullshit so here's what happens
at first your feelings I that's completely normal but after a while that
you in a few 40 and I talked about will be more powerful than any feelings of
anxiety
for me forcing myself and pushing myself to talk to anybody
and get out of my comfort zone was my answer my social anxiety was crippling
more
and when I figured out this little trick my life completely changed the problem
for most people
is that the feelings I T is just want one so instead they don't push
themselves
out of their comfort zones this is you inside your comfort zone %uh
you need to get out have your comfort zone order to grow as a person %uh
but initially it won't be easy in this going to just plain suck
not gonna light but once you get past this campaign period it gets so much
better
things that one skein Ewing's it. will instead make you feel really good
I really believe that getting out there and just talking to people has
strained my life when I look back at how are used to act feel
I'm amazed it seems utterly ridiculous that I felt anxious about the things
that I have since congress and one other thing that I would always do with just
avoid people let's say I was walking to class and I knew that on the way to
class I would run into someone I knew
I would then purposely take the long way around just to avoid that
interactions it was to that a wasn't helping the Emir
I've grown so much as a person since I've started actively challenging
some now might not even have social anxiety but
everyone has things that are challenging for them
same principles apply set goals for yourself
push yourself Adam you're comfortable stagnating in comfort is one of the
worst things a person can do
I know you had excuses as to why you can
I've been there I've had more excuses than you can possibly imagine
but at some point life just sucks way too much
there's nothing left to do except doing something you don't have to be the best
don't have to a party
just do something
even if it's as simple as saying hi to the person next to you for holding I
contact for a little longer
just get into the habit of leaving a cumbersome